Born Out of Love and Growing in Love

Continued from The History of Love

Love is like education. We start learning immediately after birth. Some of our actions being conscious and others unconscious. However, the end result is that after everyday, there is at least one more thing that we know and at least one more thing that we can do. It must not necessarily be new. Maybe we just get to know and do familiar things better.

Unlike Education, love has a little twist. No one actually goes to school to learn how to love, so I keep wondering what really pushes us to develop that special feelings towards a parent, friend, relative, child or lover. That special feeling of likeness, I guess it all starts with it. How do we ge started and get deeply involved that it changes almost everything around us?

When I was still a "kid" and much more naive than I am now :D, whenever I see a pregnant woman, the fisrt thing I think of is "someone made love to her". Yeah, true of course. Most often, I wonder why God decided that procreation with humans be sexual, as opposed to asexual with some other living things. The sexual process of procreation in humans is an act of love, that is why we call it "making love". It gives a general picture that every human being is born out of love.

Maybe not everybody, but most of us start feeling the love of a mother immediately we are born. We start growing up with that love and it is amazing how fast we learn it. I have seen kids barely 3 months old who know their mum quite well. They know that is a very special person who loves them, and they feel uneasy and even cry when in some other person's arms.

This love that we grow up with is the type we would want to share with the society. Though there are many different types or categories of love, each has the tendency of being a special positive feeling.

Every human being, therefore, especially born and raised up in love has a very wide ability to expand and share love. From my own opinion, love is a lifetime experience exposed to all, and can only be limited by our fears. Facing your fears and learning how to manage them would certainly make you a better lover.

The History Of Love

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life".

Early this morning, when I got up from bed, I took a short trip down memory lane and my exact time and location was about 11:15pm when I was from seeing someone very special to me. I didn't know what was on my mind so early in the morning, but I trusted I was I was on an adventure to uncover the answer of a question I have never thought of before. You know, some sort of a treasury haunt. Then all of a sudden, it flashed on my mind and plunged deep into the greatest depths of my heart.

The question of what love is, is being asked over and over everyday in various occasions but I never heard someone, not even a single soul, ask how love all originated. As the question of the origin of love echoed in my head, the first thing that made sense to me was a verse in the bible, John 3:16. The whole of that verse is a treasure, but the exact phrase "God so loved the world" is magnificent.

If we want to talk about the history of love, then maybe we have to go right to the BCs (Before Christ) and even to the ages of Abraham, the father of faith. You remember that story? It says Abraham loved his son very much but because he also loved God and had faith in Him, he decided to obey and was ready to sacrifice his son as God demanded.

My most heart-touching verse about love in the bible is 1 Corinthians 13:13.

But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.

The Bible puts love before hope and faith? Hmm. To me, that means quite a lot.

If we want to talk about the history of love, then there remains just one thing to say. Love is older than creation itself...continue here

2009 - Happy New Year to All Lovers

As much as you are thankful for everything about seeing a new year, you should also be very thankful to God that your love is still on. Maybe it is not as romantic and hearty as you want it, but just that fact that it is living gives you hope of a better love life.

January 1st is a very good day to spend some quality time with your love. When I say "with", it doesn't mean the encounter must be physically. If he/she is not physically available, try as much as possible to make the encounter on this day very different.

Let the usual phone call, sms, email or mail seem different to you. You can as well just have a retreat just for him/her. Hide yourself from all the noise, busy moments and celebrations and sit somewhere quiet for even a duration as short as 10 minutes and think about him/her.

As you meditate, you have many questions to ask yourself, and don't shy away from them even if the answers are not available or they are unsatisfactory. Just asking those questions means you are facing yourself courageously, and I bet you God will highly appreciate that and help you grow if the relationship is one He approves of.

If your love relationship is moving on well, you have to note the things that keeps it burning. Love is one of those things you can NEVER get enough of. Sincere love is always insufficient and yearning to grow. If you improve on those things that give the relationship a positive face, certainly the relationship will skyrocket to a higher level.

During your chosen meditation time, you must face your strengths and weaknesses. Taking note of your weaknesses helps mend those pores in your love life. Taking note of your strengths helps you share them with your partner and help him/her improve...

Whatever are your plans for 2009, having a better love life should be a priority. With love, sincere love, we can achieve much.

Dr. Luv Loves Talking About Love

Eh! Maybe I forgot mentioning in the previous post where I introduced myself.
I am not a counselor. I am no expert in love and relationships. I have never had any education on gender, love, relationships or any related field. I just enjoy sharing my opinions on most societal issues; love and relationships being my best.

Thank God for a lady like Noela, who dedicated 10 months of her life showing me unmeasured friendship and care, plus another 4 years plus of intense and sincere love, I now have lots to share. The love continues, on and on, and as we pass the daily trials and tribulations, I learn more and more. It is an everlasting love that flows endlessly.

Love is a very sensitive topic and should always be handled with extra care. Whenever I am talking about love, I abstain from being hypocritical. I remain sincere and truthful both to myself and my listeners/readers. Best of all, I remain objective, looking at both sides of the coin and not being selfish with any piece of information, mindless of whether I am very certain of, in doubts, or know nothing at all.

When I moved from my hometown (Bamenda) to Buea for University studies in September 2000, friends I met from my hometown and the new ones I made in the university started calling me Dr. Luv. I couldn't just resist actively taking part in any discussion that was love, relationship or romance inclined. Most of my friends trusted my thoughts and ideas so much that they usually moved up to me for advice on how to move along better with their partners. Most often, I am of help. At times I am not. When things work out and they ask me where I learn so much about love, I simply reply "I read too many romance books.

Actually, here, I can't talk much about experiences because I have little. In the community that raised me up, averagely a boy will have a first date / love affair at about 15. I had mine at 20, and it lasted just a few (about 3) months. A boy of my age (28) must have dated about a dozen girls, but I have dated just two. So, all along, instead of actively taking part in the romance world, I have been a silent observer, focused more on learning and evaluating. However, I can say the experience I have had with Noela is so broad that it covers up the previous 100 years of my life, ha ha ha.

I have known Lainy for quite some time now, and since I frequently chat with her online, you bet I have frequently brought up topics about love, trying to figure out how to pulls along with her Prince, and also telling her about my treasured Noela. About a dozen times, she urged me to start up a romance blog where I can share my views with the blogosphere just as I share with her. On many occasions, I didn't take her serious, but since we are here now, that means I fell in love with her suggestion. Her efforts, combined with that of IVY has given birth to this blog. I will elaborate on that in the next post.

Who Is Dr. Luv?

...just an ordinary and average (or maybe less than average) guy in the neighborhood trying to turn a normal day to a more lovely one, and living up to and beyond the expectation of his dreams.

Ferdinand Che (aka Dr. Luv) was born in Douala, the economic capital of Cameroon, on February 29, 1980. Cameroon is a small country on the west coast of the African continent, with 10 provinces (regions), a surface area of 63,701km2 and a current population of about 17,795,000.

I am very lucky being the first child born to Mr Forbeche Pius Amabo and Mrs. Bih Yvonne Forbeche. I have two brothers (Neba and Ngwa) and five sisters (Fuh, Asho, Nchang, Manka and Lum), making a total of eight children (3 males and 5 females). What a big happy family.

I always think my real name ought to have been Mr. Lucky. Though my parents weren't rich enough to send me to the best schools around here, their personalities were, and still are, the best schools the world has ever had. They did their homework well in raising a relatively calm, intelligent, loving and sincere person as my humble self.

Nothing special in the field of education. Attended a regular day primary school, secondary school, and high school. In the lower classes, I was very interested in literature, especially poetry. This is possibly what drifted my attention towards music, and seriously added a plus to my thinking and interpreting skills as far as societal issues, including love, are concerned. The stories I read in my literature classes improved on another great hobby of mine, movies. As I moved towards the upper classes, I became more interested in the sciences. I was very good at Physics in particular, but could not go too far with it since I hated Maths.

When I moved down to Buea (a small town in the south west province that hosted the lone Anglo Saxon University in the nation), I enrolled for Environmental Sciences and harvested a First Degree as fruit of my Labor. Currently, I am just a normal employee working with Galax Infotech Institute, Buea. This commercial institution specializes in PC maintenance, training and provision of Internet services. Recently, SuperFast Internet was born to it and my humble self is the one taking care of it.

On a list of my hobbies features items like music, movies, socializing with friends, teaching at a one-on-one level, and above all writing. My Passion for writing has gradually pushed me into blogging, and I love the blogosphere very much because it gives me the opportunity to express myself freely.

I own a couple of blogs, but I think this particular one is my hit song. I want to talk about something I love talking about very much...LOVE

Lainy and Ivy made it for Dr. Luv

"I think you should start a romance blog, Uncle Che".

Those were the words of my very good friend, Lainy, from the Philippines. At that point in time, I had a very tight schedule at work. The workload increased tremendously due to two main reasons

1. It was the peak period in that small town (Buea) that hosts the University of Buea. Since students just came back for university studies in September and will be busy till late December when they are going for the X-Mas break, the office was always crowded with customers (regular, students and lecturers)
2. It was time for participation in the American Green Card Lottery (DV Lottery 2010). Who from here doesn't want a Visa for the US? Ha ha ha. Many people are coming to the office to participate in the lottery. I bet it is no joke filling all those forms for them.

The work load made me believe that starting a new blog would be a suicide mission.

Thank God Lainy was there to give me all the encouragement i needed. She suggested the url for this blog and also made the purchase at Namecheap. She also laid down a verbal plan of how the blog should be run. Later on, Lainy felt the domain name she proposed and bought for me wasn't the best she could think of. She suggested the current one, which blew my mind away, and with the help of the Namecheap support, the switch was easy. I believe www.drluvonline.com is the best possible and most appropriate domain for this blog. Lainy's expertise didn't miss that out. If I had to pick a name myself, hoouuuff! I don't think 1% of the blogosphere could have liked it. He he he.

Next to her was Ivy. Who else could we contact for the design of the theme? I couldn't think of anyone but Ivy. I trust in her competence very much. I won't say this theme is good. Neither would I say it is wonderful. It is PERFECT. I never understood what she meant by giving the theme a masculine feel until I saw it. I love the color combination, size and position of sidebars and post wrapper. The sidebar and post headers are pronounce, giving the theme a rigid look; I love that too. Ivy gave me the opportunity to request for any changes. Hmmm. That's tempting. I think along the way, I will find some ideas to suggest to increase theme's perfection. It feels good having a unique theme. Thanks very much, Ivy.

Ivy didn't just end at the theme. While Lainy and I were hitting our heads against the wall, trying to figure out what the Title of this blog could be, Ivy stepped in an made a blend of various options we had, and created The Flow of Everlasting Love, and most amazingly, the Subtitle (slogan) for this blog.

You both have been very instrumental to this project and I promise to be committed and work hard to make it glow.

My sincere thanks.